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A week ago I visited a good friend who’s wife just gave birth. They had a beautiful baby girl.  My wife and I can’t help but talk about her even after we left. On that same day, we visited a friend who just recently lost his mom to cancer. I can’t help but see the irony of life in both of the visits. One is celebrating new life, while the other was mourning the end of it. I was somber the whole day. It made me think of the life that we live, its meaning and its value.


I saw this word a few months back from a baby magazine. Yes, I was so bored that time that I read what my pregnant wife was reading. I got so curious and did a little research about the word’s existence. I got lucky and saw it in Merriam-Webster’s open dictionary.

Infanticipation (noun) : The emotion one experiences during the gestation of their baby, and or maybe a feeling that you get when you are expecting something, similar to the feeling of expectant parents.

My wife does not want her pregnant photo to be shown

In a few month’s time my wife and I are welcoming another beautiful gift of life from God through the birth of our second baby. I can’t help but be excited, we waited for this bundle of blessing for close to 6 years. We have a daughter who’s turning six next month. I know our wait can never outweigh the time spent by friends who, for a number of years waited for a baby. I have quite a few of these friends. Sometimes, I don’t understand why God allows these things to happen – People who are not ready, unmarried and incapable of raising a baby, get pregnant so easily. But those that are ready, and are potentially good parents, just have a darn hard time. I will never understand this completely. But this I know, God’s ways are not my ways, my thoughts are not His thoughts as described by the prophet Isaiah. Thus their infanticipation are prolonged, sometimes it will never come. Take heart though friends, for God has a plan, and it is going to be perfect for this I am certain.

Others on the other hand experience a different kind of infanticipation. There are those who are waiting for the right person to come along, but that person never comes. Friends who after much waiting and dating still are unable to find someone to settle down with. By the looks of their faces, I can actually tell that they are more than ready to be wed, all the lines and dark spots reveal ones age after all (joke!). But again, God’s ways are not my ways and His thoughts are not mine.  But, His plans for you to have a future to hope for is certain as what was shared by the prophet Jeremiah.

In the process of composing this blog, I just realized that God to is infanticipating. I mean remember the story of the friend who just recently lost his mom to cancer? God must have been anxious for her return to heaven, probably a bit similar to how anxious and excited my wife and I are for this coming baby. He is as excited also for those who ran away from His love and are now on their way back to His forgiving arms. We have a God who like all the fathers are excited for the coming of their sons. He is waiting. He is expecting and ready to love you.

Something to make you smile: Joke for the night.

Signs that you’re a New Dad:

Getting six hours of sleep is a privilege.

The sentence, “Honey, could you take his foot out of my pocket?” sounds normal.

You are used to doing everything one-handed.

The thought of your mother-in-law coming over for a few hours is a pleasant one.

The list of bodily fluids that disgust you has shortened, possibly to zero.

Your idea of romance is hand-holding.

You answer the question “How are you?” with “We’re fine.”

You decide whether a shirt is wearable not based on sweatiness, but based upon how well the spit-up stains match the shirt’s main color.

You see a slender teenage girl walking down your street, and you think, “Hey, I wonder if I could interest her in… babysitting?


So Near, Yet So Far

Photo by Nihele: So near, yet so far

The past week was hectic for yours truly, but I pray and hope that I was able to deliver what was required. In the past week we also saw how teams in the NBA scampered to woo LBJ (LeBron James). All the while, everybody thought he was going to sign up with his home team (Cleveland). But all of Cleveland’s effort fell short of LBJ’s need for a championship. To Cleveland, you guys were so near, yet it was so far (to meet LBJ’s needs). I also saw the 2nd game day of the UAAP. The game was between ADMU and FEU, the first has been the champion for the past 2 years and the latter, the perennial 2nd placer. It was such a close fight but the champion fell short in the end game. To ADMU, you guys were so near, yet it was so far.

Have you ever been in a situation wherein you had a strong feeling that it is in the bag, but fell short in closing the deal? I know, you have your own “so close yet so far” experiences. May it be with school, work, ministry or with relationships, we all go through this at some points in our lives.

A friend of mine who has been working for the same company for years aspired to seek a higher position at the start of this year. He was up against a younger candidate, who was a fairly new but more qualified worker. Just last week he lost the position to this younger guy, as he said he was so near but yet so far. A friend who was with someone for over 5 years as boyfriend and girlfriend called it quits just recently. The reason? Well, the girl was already set for marriage, while my friend was “preparing” for- in his words their better future together. In one of our conversations, he told me that he was already to propose, he was just waiting for the right time. So near and yet so far.

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Perhaps, the most classic example of being so near yet being so far was Judas Iscariot. I mean he was so near to Christ himself, as  a supposed close ally . But, yet we saw how far off he was in his relationship with Christ.

Matthew 26: 14-16

Judas Agrees to Betray Jesus

14Then one of the Twelve—the one called Judas Iscariot—went to the chief priests 15and asked, “What are you willing to give me if I hand him over to you?” So they counted out for him thirty silver coins. 16From then on Judas watched for an opportunity to hand him over.

The challenge really is not to do a Judas. And by that I mean give up. My friend who was in that long relationship can still end up being friends with his ex (different topic, soon), the friend who lost the position he so aspired can try again, and again and again. ADMU knows it’s just the first game, they can try to beat everybody else and hope to beat FEU in their next meeting. I don’t know how LBJ’s relationship is going to be with Cleveland, but I guess in the end, the Ohio natives will forgive his move and again be friends with their former “king”.

We betray Christ too in some degrees daily, but this does not mean that we cannot make amends and go back to His loving embrace. That’s why I love and am proud of my Catholic faith. Imagine being able to ask for forgiveness and be actually forgiven through the sacrament of confession.

Confession is one of the least understood of the sacraments of the Catholic Church. In reconciling with God, it is a great source of grace. Us Catholics are encouraged to take advantage of it often.

The Sacrament of Reconciliation, commonly called Confession, is one of the seven sacraments recognized by the Catholic Church. Catholics believe that all of the sacraments were instituted by Jesus Christ himself. In the case of Confession, that institution occurred on Easter Sunday, when Christ first appeared to the apostles after his Resurrection. Breathing on them, he said: “Receive the Holy Spirit. For those whose sins you forgive, they are forgiven; for those whose sins you retain, they are retained” (John 20:22-23).

Yes, our lives are sometimes too far away from the loving embrace of Christ, but we can do something to be so near. Now, is the time to unburden yourselves of sin and guilt. You are loved. God is nearer than you think He is.

Quote of the night:

“Let yourself be open and life will be easier. A spoon of salt in a glass of water makes the water undrinkable. A spoon of salt in a lake is almost unnoticed.”